Friday, November 14, 2014
Get Out of the Ring
I keep noticing many people doing the same thing, it's so easy to win a fight when you are beating up your own self.
Well. I stepped out of the ring. So should you.
It's just so easy to sell yourself short, to feel like you've done wrong, that you're never going to be good enough.
Trust me, I know when I've done something I wish I did not do. This afternoon, for example, my daughter, who is going to send me to my grave early by the way, was climbing on a stool after I said no, and in slow motion, I saw her falling down- which was followed by about 20 minutes of tears, that I just didn't want to deal with. I got really really mad at her, then that was followed by 10 minutes of guilt.
Guilt, it's pretty much the black belt of the ring.
This morning, at crossfit, I was not going to add too much weight on my barbell, I always sell myself short- I do not want to get hurt, I'm not sure I can do that, I will play it safe-. "Self, you've been doing this for 2 years now, that is not out of your possibility", is what I should have been saying.
That's where my friend stepped in and told me that I had to do it. She gave me the confidence to stand up and do what I knew I could do. Had I left without attempting what I did, I would have spent the rest of the day wondering if I could have done it or maybe even slapping myself on the cheek a couple of times for backing out of it.
Slaps on the face, no one wants them, but yet, we just keep going in for more. Seriously- stop!
You are not a bad person. You are human. We are going to do things, things we regret, things that make us guilty, we are going to back away from challenges- it's just going to happen.
But it's your choice, your right, and your necessity to step out of the ring, to stop taking hits to the jaw, accept what you have or have not done and move on.
Things happen and things end- MOVE ON! Stop talking about it, stop analyzing it, you did or didn't do it and that's a fact- next time you have the chance to do it differently. Forgive yourself for the wrong, and encourage yourself for the challenges.
If this is hard for you, get a friend. Friends are awesome- they do things that are wrong too and they also see things in you that you do not.
No one is perfect- but no one deserves to get their ass kicked-- from their own self.
Get out of the ring and move on!