We can do hard things!
I finished a book recently, and this one was of the big take away messages for me.
In fact, I took it away so much, I'm making a canvas of the phrase and hanging it for all to see in my house.
Life is hard, there's no denying it. Sometimes, we try HARD to avoid the hard stuff, but there's no way around it- things are going to be hard occasionally (or always).
Everyone's hard is different, but we are all equipped to handle it, to do it, to survive, and come out on the other side, saying "I did it".
Sometimes we are faced with hard things we have no choice to do, a test at school, apologizing, saying goodbye to someone we love, having a baby, getting sick, moving.
Sometimes we are faced with hard things we have a choice not to do: higher level classes, opportunity for growth with a new position in the company, moving for a promotion, change in eating habits, a workout, pull ups, showing up, admitting a wrong.
We can do hard things!
These things we have a choice NOT to do, we can do them.
There is no prerequisite for perfection in the handbook of doing hard things. (fine, maybe there isn't a handbook for doing these hard things).
There is no requirement for doing hard stuff well, you just have to do it.
Some of these hard things are going to take courage, they may be painful, because you have no choice. Some of them are going to require practice and patience, lots and lots of both.
So, you want to try crossfit, but it's too hard? No it's not! The hardest part is walking through the door and meeting a bunch of strangers for your first day.
There are lots of hard things at crossfit, but everyone can do them-even you! Some things are hard, who am I kidding?, most things are hard- you can even make them harder, BUT you show up- that is the hardest part. You can work hard every time you show up-that is something you can say you did and do every.single.day!
"I work hard".
When you work hard, eventually, maybe next week, maybe in two years, maybe longer, that hard thing isn't so hard anymore. You can look back and say "I did something hard. I can do hard things."
I had an amazing experience last night of photographing a birth. In fact, it was the first birth I had ever seen, since all mine were c-sections. My friend, a fellow cross fitter, had positive affirmations all around the room to keep herself going. My only advice to her was "remember that workout that was so hard and you were crying but you made yourself finish. You got this, you can do hard things."
A few weeks ago, I was nervous about doing a swim in a last minute crossfit competition I filled in for- the best advice I was given by one of my friends, "we can do hard things."
I struggle daily with parenting-the kids throw me curve balls all the time, I just keep muttering inside my head, "you can do hard things, you can do them, yes you can."
Whatever hard thing you are faced with, you don't turn your back on it, keep facing it, stare it in the eye and tell it "I can do hard things" until it's the one to turn its back first.
Life is hard- you can do hard things!
**The book I read was Carry On Warrior by Glennon Doyle Melton if you are interested in a good read.